This is Part 4.
Here is Part 1.
Here is Part 2.
Here is Part 3.

I ended part 3 with the question, “who do I want to be?” Simple. I want to be Bat Man. I always have. Problem solved!

OK, obviously I’m still going to be me. The question, “who do I want to be?” is not designed to get me to think of who else I want to try to be like. The question is designed to get me thinking of how to go about being my best self. It’s supposed to make me think of the qualities I want to embody and the physical manifestations of those qualities. At least that’s how I think of it!

And I could be “different” people at different times. I might bring different qualities to say the time I spend with our son vs. time I spend booking gigs. But answering the question, “who do I want to be?” before I approach either situation puts me in a much better place than if I just jump in unconsciously or worse yet, look at these things as just tasks to be crossed off a list.

The other great thing about that question is that it demands that I be totally present in whatever it is that I’m doing and that’s something that for me, rarely happens when I’m in my DOING mode!

But even asking and trying to answer the question, “who do I want to be?” can seem like a chore if I’m in a bad mood or really stuck in my DOING mindset. So I came up with a companion question that to me, is even more motivating. I based this new song and this video on that question:

In My Son’s Eyes from mattwahl on Vimeo.

Thanks for being here!
Matt

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