As some of you know, I’ve decided to go back to school. I am, as of this past Tuesday, an accounting major at the University of Minnesota Duluth. I’ll still be playing music. I’ll just be studying too (not at the same time of course!) One of the classes I need to take is General Psychology. I some how made it out of the U of M the first time without taking it. I LOVE psychology and the class has so far been neat. We have to write an essay on why we are at the University of MN Duluth. I just finished it and thought I’d share it here.
Here is my essay:
My story is that I am here at UMD because I saw a man watering his flowers. Odd, I know but that’s how it happened.
It’s easy for me to second guess my presence at UMD. I do that every day. I’m what you call a “non-traditional” student. As a 37 year old husband and father, I don’t exactly blend in, especially in a General Psychology course that is made up predominantly of freshman.
15 years ago I was handed a diploma from the College of Liberal Arts at the University of Minnesota – Twin Cities with a bachelors of Theatre Arts and a minor in Spanish. At that point I would have bet any amount of money that my college days were done. I had other plans! Big dreams and big ideas! Here I am typing this, so I guess it’s a good thing I didn’t make that bet!
During my sophomore year of college at the U of M Twin Cities, I decided on an unusual course for my life. I changed my major from a BS in Econ with the goal of law school to Theatre with an emphasis on acting. That same year I decided I was going to be a professional musician. Once that decision was made, that was it for me. All of my spare energy, time and resources went toward pursuing my dream of being a full time, touring, performing singer/songwriter.
I raced through the last couple of years of my degree, landed an office job to pay the bills and spent my nights and weekends booking gigs, traveling and playing my music. In May of 1999 I walked out of that office for the last time and have been traveling around the country playing music ever since. I’ve released 6 CDs of original songs on my own record label and have had the absolute pleasure of doing something I love for a living. There’s almost nothing better than that.
The key to that last statement is the “almost.” This coming November our son Eric will turn 4. I can tell you that for me, there IS nothing better than being a dad! The time flies by so quickly and he seems to change daily. This past Tuesday, my first day of classes in 15 years, I dropped him off at preschool. Before I know it, he’ll be sitting in a class just like this, maybe typing a similar paper and I’ll be almost 50!
The late, great Harry Chapin (singer/songwriter) said in his song, “Story Of A Life,” “All your dreams of open spaces, you’ll find in your children’s faces one by one.”
We have another baby coming in March and I don’t want to be on the road anymore. It tears me up to leave town! It hurts almost as much to think of “giving up” something I’ve dreamt about since I was 18 years old but I have faith that things will work out. For now, I’m going to be a dad.
This decision didn’t come easily. I’ve been struggling with it for some time now, but I have a belief that we are guided and if we keep our eyes open, we’ll see the signs showing us the way. Late in July I dropped our son off at the daycare he was attending before he started preschool. I took a different way home that went past an accounting office. A small, single person office. On this beautiful, sunny, summer morning, the accountant (at least I assume it was this fellow’s office) was standing outside with a hose watering his flowers. Something about that clicked. Despite my passion for music and performance and my creativity in songwriting and storytelling, the dominant part of my personality is very meticulous and analytical (read: I’m pretty much a nerd) and I thought, “I could do that.”
The next day I was standing in the office of the Transfer Admissions Counselor at the University of Minnesota Duluth and on Tuesday, September 6th I walked into my first class, General Psychology as an Accounting major!
It’s a strange story, I know, but one thing my history has taught me is that you just never know! Regardless of how much you plan and prepare, things change on a dime. People come into your life unexpectedly and some go just as quickly. The things you were so certain about one day you’ll wake another day and it will be hard to believe you ever felt the way you did!
We all have exactly one moment in which everything happens. The Now. And in that one moment, we take all our knowledge and all our experience and do the best we can in that single moment. And in the next moment, we have more or different knowledge and more/different experiences with which to live that next present moment. So one could argue that it is impossible for the same person to live more than one moment in a row. Each consecutive moment should be viewed through the lens of new knowledge, new experiences, new beliefs and values.
There have been a lot of “nows” in the 15 years since the 22 year old I used to be received that first diploma. I know that 22 year old would have a hard time understanding the life I’m living and the decisions I’m making but that 22 year old doesn’t know my story. To me, one of the dangers of a single story would be to evaluate your present only through the lens of your past. I’m often guilty of using my “old” story to rail against my current conditions.
Just as different nations, countries, continents, cultures, etc. have different stories, each of our lives are made up of different stories. I’ve learned that if I don’t look at where I am and who I am through the thoughts, beliefs, values, knowledge and experience of my current story, I won’t be seeing the real me. It is very hard to make peace with the present looking only through the lens of the past.
As of today, my story is that I’m a husband and a father, studying accounting at the University of Minnesota Duluth because I saw an accountant watering his flowers. Tomorrow…….that’s a different story!